Chapter 17: chapter 17

Neha, Sanya and Azeez followed Gagan. We all sat in the car. Gagan ignited the engine of the car. Soon, Vicky also came. Gagan drove the car back to my home. Gagan - We just had a narrow escape. Today, we were about to be beaten by Rajesh and his family. Aman - But why? Gagan said sarcastically, “It all happened because of you! Because of your facts! What was the need of telling him the facts? Couldn’t you just stay silent?‘Aman - I was silent. In fact, I didn’t even want to speak. But when Vicky told that the age of his grandfather was not that much. I was not able to digest that. How can he say that ninety years of age is not that much. It’s too much in reality. He told a big lie to him. I still can’t understand why Vicky lied to them. Vicky - Aman ji, in which world are you living? I also know that ninety years of age is too much. But we should not say it in the face of the deceased family members. They get hurt. Even if his grandfather’s age were a hundred years, I would have used the same dialogue, “The age was not that much.”Aman - Oh gosh! That means your dialogue is fixed. Vicky - Yeah. And I use the same dialogue in each and every family I visit to offer my condolences for the deceased person. Aman - Oh, no! It’s just acting like a robot. Vicky - Be a robot if you want to live peacefully in society. Aman - But I can’t behave like a robot. I am a human being. Gagan - Then be like a human being  and be beaten up by other human beings. Huh! Aman - But I don’t want to be beaten up. I told you I am a human being, I am not a robot. And a human being feels pain. Gagan - Oh, ho! This guy is too much! Huh! Neha - Let me explain. Aman - Hmm…Neha - Aman, it’s like that in such situations, we should not speak the truth. Because the truth hurts. Rajesh was already suffering from his mental agony and you told him that it was time to celebrate. Obviously, he would become angry. Aman - There was a time when I also used to tell lies in such situations. But with the passage of time, I got fed up. For how long will we continue telling and listening to lies? Somewhere, sometime, we have to put a full stop to it. Then why not put a full stop right now? We can’t continue living in lies by keeping our eyes closed. Sanya - Aman, society doesn’t run like that.Aman - I know present society doesn’t run like that. But if we keep on trying then in future society will start running in a better way. Azeez - Aman, society is never going to change. Aman - No, society can change. It’s possible. And it has already been changing since times immemorial. I can give you one solid example for that. Gagan - Okay. Aman - Before Raja Ram Mohan Roy, Sati was considered a good practice in society. The practice was not only socially acceptable but also compulsory. If you don’t know about Sati then I'll tell you. When a husband dies at those times, a wife is forced to get burnt in the same pyre of her husband itself! It was a murder! But at that time it was considered a good social practice. “But later on owing to the efforts of Raja Ram Mohan Roy, Sati pratha became illegal. And now no Sati pratha is being practiced anywhere. And that means society has changed. But it didn’t change on its own. Raja Ram Mohan Roy had to raise his voice. He had to struggle and even suffer from the hands of society. But at the end of the day due to his perseverance, he won his fight.”“Similarly, now we have to put strong efforts and make society understand and accept the reality. It’s futile to cry over the death of old ones especially, who has crossed ninety years! If we start training society that deaths should not be mourned but celebrated, then with the passage of time, society will learn to celebrate deaths.”“Well, if you ask from me, then I say that we should not mourn any deaths, be it of a younger one or an older one. Death is certain. Everyone of us has to die sooner or later. It should become an occasion of celebration, not of mourning. Human beings will get one more reason to celebrate and be happy and to understand the depth of life.”Sanya - Aman, how can we celebrate deaths? It’s impossible. Aman - Everything is possible. We just need training of our minds. Now, our minds are trained to cry on the deaths of others. That’s why we are crying. When our minds will be trained to celebrate deaths, then we will celebrate. The problem is that nobody is training us in this way. And I am not saying that we must not cry. “If one feels like crying on the death of someone, he can cry. But at the same time, within his heart, he must be saying, “You came on the earth for forty years. You enjoyed your life well. You gave me too much happiness and I enjoyed being with you. And now you are going back to your place. Maybe we will meet soon in the future.”“Hmm… It’s just as our guests come and stay at our home for four to five days. And after that, they go back to their homes. Deaths should be considered in that way. We should take our family members as our guests and believe that they are with us only for a few days. And then they will go back to their place. And we should see off them in a very happy way. In this way both sides will feel happy and gaiety.”“I guess I am speaking so much.”(It will be so nice of you, if you leave at least a single word comment and please don't forget to follow me and become my superfan. You will be able to chat with me and my superfans directly.)